Log In. Publish To Social Networks. Company About Us. Connect With Us. All Rights Reserved. If we have obtained permission, have consulted with others, asked God to help and the drastic step is indicated we must not shrink. Sometimes we hear an alcoholic say that the only thing he needs to do is to keep sober. Certainly he must keep sober, for there will be no home if he doesn't.
But he is yet a long way from making good to the wife or parents whom for years he has so shockingly treated. Yes, there is a long period of reconstruction ahead. We must take the lead. The spiritual life is not a theory. We have to live it. We must remember that ten or twenty years of drunkenness would make a skeptic out of anyone. Every day is a day when we must carry the vision of God's will into all of our activities. If we have carefully followed directions, we have begun to sense the flow of His Spirit into us.
To some extent we have become God-conscious. We have begun to develop this vital sixth sense. But we must go further and that means more action. But we must be careful not to drift into worry, remorse or morbid reflection, for that would diminish our usefulness to others. To watch people recover, to see them help others, to watch loneliness vanish, to see a fellowship grow up about you, to have a host of friends-this is an experience you must not miss.
The family must decide these things. To be vital, faith must be accompanied by self sacrifice and unselfish, constructive action. Never talk down to an alcoholic from any moral or spiritual hilltop; simply lay out the kit of spiritual tools for his inspection. If he is sincerely interested and wants to see you again, ask him to read this book in the interval. After doing that, he must decide for himself whether he wants to go on.
He should not be pushed or prodded by you, his wife, or his friends. If he is to find God, the desire must come from within. Never avoid these responsibilities, but be sure you are doing the right thing if you assume them. A kindly act once in a while isn't enough. You have to act the Good Samaritan every day, if need be. Argument and fault-finding are to be avoided like the plague. In many homes this is a difficult thing to do, but it must be done if any results are to be expected.
But we must try to repair the damage immediately lest we pay the penalty by a spree. If their old relationship is to be resumed it must be on a better basis, since the former did not work.
Both you and the new man must walk day by day in the path of spiritual progress. People have said we must not go where liquor is served; we must not have it in our homes; we must shun friends who drink; we must avoid moving pictures which show drinking scenes; we must not go into bars; our friends must hide their bottles if we go to their houses; we mustn't think or be reminded about alcohol at all. Our experience shows that this is not necessarily so.
But some of us think we should not serve liquor to anyone. We never argue this question. We are careful never to show intolerance or hatred of drinking as an institution. Besides, we have stopped fighting anybody or anything. We have to! Wait until repeated stumbling convinces him he must act, for the more you hurry him the longer his recovery may be delayed. But sometimes you must start life anew.
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Forward to the 2 nd Edition. In this statement he confirms what we who have suffered alcoholic torture must believe--that the body of the alcoholic is quite as abnormal as his mind.
The message which can interest and hold these alcoholic people must have depth and weight. In nearly all cases, their ideals must be grounded in a power greater than themselves, if they are to re-create their lives. Simple, but not easy; a price had to be paid. It meant destruction of self-centeredness. I must turn in all things to the Father of Light who presides over us all. If we are planning to stop drinking, there must be no reservation of any kind, nor any lurking notion that someday we will be immune to alcohol.
Once more: The alcoholic at certain times has no effective mental defense against the first drink. Except in a few cases, neither he nor any other human being can provide such a defense. His defense must come from a Higher Power. But after a while we had to face the fact that we must find a spiritual basis of life --or else. They arise out of ourselves, and the alcoholic is an extreme example of self-will run riot, though he usually doesn't think so.
Above everything, we alcoholics must be rid of this selfishness. We must, or it kills us! God makes that possible. We began to see that the world and its people really dominated us. In that state, the wrong-doing of others, fancied or real, had power to actually kill.
How could we escape? We saw that these resentments must be mastered, but how? W e could not wish them away any more than alcohol. Whatever our ideal turns out to be, we must be willing to grow toward it. We must be willing to make amends where we have done harm, provided that we do not bring about still more harm in so doing.
In other words, we treat sex as we would any other problem. The right answer will come, if we want it. We must be entirely honest with somebody if we expect to live long or happily in this world. Rightly and naturally, we think well before we choose the person or persons with whom to take this intimate and confidential step.
Those of us belonging to a religious denomination which requires confession must, and of course, will want to go to the properly appointed authority whose duty it is to receive it.
The rule is we must be hard on ourself, but always considerate of others.
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